"your happiness should not be governed by anyone else".
you should not place your happiness in anybody else's hands. you should be as independent as possible. its not required that in order to be very good friends you have to be dependent.
Even if you spend very little time you can have a very good relationship.
And most importantly you should not compromise on your friends. Lets say you have a situation where you dont have any friends around. The people who are around you, you dont like them really. SO what do you do, compromise and make friends with them or live alone?
Its good to have friends, but not necessary. So it is very important to know how to live by yourself.

Anyways, that was a totally different issue.
Now coming to the topic: I saw zinda yesterday. One of the few things that came to my mind was that passion is ony thing..being eccentric is another. You can be passionate about something as much as you want until it affects someone else's life. Rohit Prakash was not doing justice, he was being an eccentric, carrying his emotions far too much beond what they deserved. Sanjay Dutt was superb. And John Abraham was pathetic. Lara Dutta did an OK job. But the best thing was the movie making style. Yes it was copied, but what the heck, I get to watch something good. And the best part were the two songs.. zinda hoon main aur ye hai meri kahani. Never have songs integrated so well into the movie storyline. The first half is simply superb.

Happy New Year

Nothing changes except the last digit in the date column. Why the hell do people celebrate. Sometimes it seems so absurd. Crores of people are happy just because the year is changing. How can the human mind be so meaningless. Even animals wont agree to such behaviour (If given an option that is). I believe we should celebrate only personal successes. But some people dont manage to achieve anything and hence the concept of personal success is missing. For such people the achievement of earth in making a complete circle is reason enough to celebrate.

Anyway, I heard a phrase yesterday called "main excuse person". A person who you know is as capable as u is achieving <= you. So you tell yourself that it's OK. He's not doing good either. When such main excuse people start achieving, it's then that the bells start ringing.

One of the mistakes that we make is comparing people. When we compare ourselves with others we induce a lot of unhappiness into our thoughts.